After returning from a 32 hour trip to Bethlehem last Friday, I promptly called Rabbi Blake. A while back, we discussed the possibility of a guest blog appearance (or two) during my Year In Israel. Wanting to share my Bethlehem experience, I figured now was as good of a time as ever to offer. Turns out, I was pretty lucky because my message ties in pretty nicely to Vayera, this week’s Torah portion.
Although there are many rich stories detailed in this jam-packed parasha, I am actually not going to take us past the first few verses. “When Abraham saw the men he ran from the entrance of the tent to greet them [Gen. 18:2].” Not only did Abraham run to greet these three strangers, be he also invited them to bathe, rest, and eat. He ran around gathering all of what they might have needed.
So the first thing to point out is that Abraham is only three days removed from a very painful surgery (hint: most males experience it when they are eight days old). For him to be running around doing anything is, as I understand it, a great feat. Not let’s add in the second part: these three men are total strangers. Abraham goes out of his way to provide these passers by with the very best hospitality he can offer. This story of hachnasat orchim, or welcoming the stranger, is tied directly to my experience in Bethlehem and can absolutely offer us something this week. I had the opportunity to, among other thought provoking things, be on the receiving end of some incredible hospitality.
After a long day of listening to speakers and touring Bethlehem, we set out for dinner at The Tent restaurant. Eating with our host parents, Jamila and Abdifata as well as their seven year old granddaughter Dana, my friend Dusty and I engaged in as much conversation as was possible with their limited English and our complete lack of Arabic. We asked about their story and their life in Bethlehem. What was immediately clear was their excitement for hosting foreign guests. They continuously made mention of all their previous visitors and how great it is to meet diverse people from many other countries. We learned about their enjoyment of travelling to Haifa, Tel Aviv, and Jerusalem before movement restrictions were imposed, making it impossible for them to leave the West Bank. Abdifata teaches Islamic religion at the Lutheran school in Bethlehem, and Jamila used to spend much of her time in women’s empowerment groups and dialogues between Israelis and Palestinians. Her philosophy is based on the premise that “People get along. The government gets in the way.” This family is living evidence of that message.
Once dinner was over, we headed back to their house, which has been in the family for more than 100 years. It started with tea. Then there was chocolate. Next came the box of cookies. We politely nibbled on some of what Jamila presented us with, despite being incredibly full from a delicious and filling dinner. Then she brought each of us an entire plate of fruit. I quickly reached my consumption limit and Dusty was not far behind. We sat and we talked with Jamila and Dana as we ate, and watched the two of them lovingly interact. Later, Dana’s mother came down (they live in an apartment upstairs from Jamila and Abdifata) with Lean, her youngest child who was about nine months old. Watching all of them, all I could think about is how these children will group up: surrounded by a warm and loving family. But will they also be suffocated by movement restrictions? Will they ever experience life outside of Bethlehem? Will they grow up hating Israelis or will they build the foundations of peace as their grandparents have tried to do?
We have such a long way to go on the road to peace, but surely, this incredibly hospitality is a start. Connecting on a human level, I believe, sets the foundations for other types of bridges to be built. Most Palestinians are not terrorists. Most Palestinians want peace. I can say that until I’m blue in the face, but unless more people get to see and experience it firsthand, I’m not sure much will change.
And what about us, as North American Jews? Do we do a respectable job welcoming the stranger? Would we be as open to hosting people from “the other side” as my Palestinian host family? How might that change the outlook of the situation?
My trip to Bethlehem was thought provoking, meaningful, important, and worthwhile and, most of all, rooted in my dedication to listen resiliently and look past glaring differences in the search for commonalities. I would be happy to answer any questions about my trip, as this has provided only a miniscule glance into the time I spent in Bethlehem.
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